Friends, Family & Carers Forum

[Anastasia]

Hi @Schitzo 🤗

[JH_MHCN]

HI 🙂

[Anastasia]

Oh @Shaz51 I hear you

It's always our fault xxxx

[JH_MHCN]

It doesn't help anyone when a person's wishes are ignored like that, especially when they blame the innocent carer bystander and compromise that support too

[Shaz51]

hello @Schitzo 

@Anastasia, @nashy , @Former-Member 

@JH_MHCN, I find it hard to find that right balance between what will help and what we should do 

[nashy]

Hello @Anastasia I hear you. That "splitting" is really challenging to manage and can make the brain go topsy turvy from time to time. Do you have any supports you lean on during these challenging times? I am glad to hear he is travelling better.

[nashy]

Hey there @Schitzo! We are happy to have you 🙂 

[nashy]

Hello @Shaz51 Oh I am sorry. I can understand feeling it is your fault because he may state this but it is not the case. You are a supportive carer by all accounts. It is challenging to hear he will no longer accept any support Is he open to another type of support at all?

[Anastasia]

Yes. I see my own therapist and I have this beautiful community ❤️

@nashy 

That sort of behaviour is difficult it does make me question my own sanity at time

Reminds me of gaslightling

[JH_MHCN]

It is important to feel that dilemma and remember that to really help a person change means helping them change themselves, or else they haven't mastered it. So even if its hard not to advise and even nag sometimes, with the best intent, recall a little space can allow a lot of growth.