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So that everyone knows, I did try to address this with a moderator for the thread to be monitored to look after all participants at the time.
@EternalFlower @StanD @tyme here from the beginning of ???
@tonys @Appleblossom arrived and experienced the explosion
@Sophia1 someone invited you.
A time to thank those of you who genuinely supported each other and myself
This has taken me a long time of do I or don’t I
The decision today is I do
Hello
I have been shocked, hurt and left feeling astounded.
I tried to start a thread with good intentions of allowing the mind to wander, play with our imaginations.
That got sidetracked. So that is what is.
This is a website where there are a whole range of life experiences, illnesses, trauma and much more.
My attempt to write about the need to respect all also received a response that was derisive and criticising.
I feel for anyone in life who has experienced trauma and hardship, loss, illness and everything that accompanies these times plus endless more.
Yes, I do believe that we all should feel comfortable in opening up and feel in a safe space to do so. That is the elephant in the room though.
Where is the space safe when some are looked after and not all.
We all communicate differently and so we should, we are who we are and come here with hope.
Not one of us is better than another though, despite the horrors that they have endured.
I have endured some horrific stuff. I did not come here to share it. I want to have time out not allowing it to rule my head and my life.
Perhaps that is why I have not been accepted as me.
If others want to share that is why they are here. I am not making any rules about what to write about. How to write it , Yes Yes Yes
I will never take it out on someone else though either.
I will never compare one person's life to another.
All humans are equal
including those who say this and think that they are better
@tonysI think that it might help you to know that I did receive a copy of the scathing letter that affected you so strongly.
I am not in the least surprised at your reaction.
It was venomous and written with intent to hurt,
(not you though, I believe,)
more to hurt all of the perpetrators who had hurt the person concerned. Lashing out at you recognising your kindness and vulnerability.
This does not diminish the intensity of the impact on you.
I am so sorry that you were put through that experience.
I sincerely hope that Sane is taking that very seriously and putting immediate steps in place to make sure that it never ever happens again.
This is dreadful . I have experienced this in real life time over and over from different people.
Boundaries. Yes there are special sections on the forums about these.
@StanDI am so sorry that you experienced such anguish at such depth.
You are not wrong in feeling those emotions as they are real for you.
You cannot lash out at others though.
Help in this area has perhaps never been offered to you.
Perhaps time since and discussion around this possibly has allowed you to learn a little slowly.
It will probably take time as I felt your pain was insurmountable and came out perhaps without you realising.
That is where this style of communication is not helpful in fact is problematic.
This is where something should have been written on the space by Sane, where your message was removed, advising all, that due to a difficult time a post has been removed. The matter has been addressed. Please know that none of you must feel any responsibility. Your feelings and experience on here is just as valuable as anyone. Or something in Sane speak
I did read the letter that you received that was quickly taken down leaving a huge crevice for everyone else to be left reeling.
Comfort coming from all directions to certain people.
Wrong. comfort to all or none.
I have stayed away from this thread as I have felt so hurt and violated.
Not one single person from Sane has bothered to write to me outside of the forums even though I requested via moderator option that his thread be closely moderated to protect all members. That did not occur. How was I supported in daring to stand up and protect others?
So I will not stay in a place where some are looked after, over protected, others cruelly disrespected and myself perhaps more just disregarded.
I do thank those of you who did leave kind posts.
I also want to thank you for making the effort of apologising Stan D, however after your treatment of me in response to my trying to settle the storm and focus on respect, also reading further posts from you here and elsewhere, sadly I question the sincerity.
I would prefer you not apologise just to save face.
Again I do not believe that you want to be this way. I hope that you receive guidance moving forward helping you to talk with others.
I truly believe that you do want to be nice to people. I did feel that from you in the early stages.
Thank you for those times.
Please do not give up learning. It will take time. You deserve help just as much as everyone else.
It really saddens me that I am writing this to you as it hurts me when others hurt.
Please learn from this.
If you choose to hate me I will live with that. I just want you to rise above your perpetrators and be the kind caring person I saw glimpses of so that you can start to have a better life.
I mean that.
Hurt and left feeling a strong sense of discrimination and stigmatism seeped through the portals.
This will probably be taken down before being read.
I do have a copy and will be forwarding it to Sane directly.
I realise that I will now be unwelcome.
Truth hurts sadly.
Motion is moving on
Farewell
