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‎18-08-2016 02:22 PM
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Re: Mother in denial
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‎23-08-2016 03:13 PM
‎23-08-2016 03:13 PM
Re: Mother in denial
Hi Holly.Hows your mum doing now?
Do you know at what age this all started happening?
Eg:was it around Menopause or before?
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‎23-08-2016 04:47 PM
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‎23-08-2016 05:09 PM
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‎23-08-2016 08:31 PM
‎23-08-2016 08:31 PM
Re: Mother in denial
Hi @holly,
Hopefully you can hang in there and be patient with your mum.Hopefully things will get better soon.
There's are links between Migraines and Bipolar Disorder and in addition sleep deprivation itself can cause migraines,paranoia and mood changes.
Some people with both Migraines and Bipolar Disorder have White Matter Hyperintensities upon scanning so the MRI would be a good idea (if you can the doctors to do it).
In addition,there's others thing such as Tumours(as mentioned),Endocrine Disorders plus other things that can cause both Headaches and Mood swings.
Has your mum described in detail the headaches(ie:the pain location,pain type,when they happen,any triggers etc)?
Has she mentioned any other physical symptoms such as tingling feet,palpitations,weight gain or loss or anything else?
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‎13-02-2017 10:16 AM
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Re: Mother in denial
Hi Holly
I hope you dont mind me asking but how are things now?
After 54 years with a mentally mother, who is in denial, I dont know where to start.
Cath
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‎15-02-2017 11:30 PM
‎15-02-2017 11:30 PM
Re: Mother in denial
Hi Cath,
Firstly, so sorry that I haven't replied sooner, and I definately don't mind you asking how things are now going. That's what this forum is about, to help each other through experiences and what we have learned from them and also others.
Things are now going really well. For quite a number months, it didn't seem like it would ever get better, but it has, and is going really well. My mother ended up being admitted under the Mental Health Act and tried to fight it numerous times. She spent most of her time calling family and friends asking for help to get her out. She was constantly referring to men locking their wives away so they could have affairs and "get rid of them". This obviously didn't do her any favours in the hospital. She was very irrational, and my father and I had to answer a number of calls from family members who had received calls from her in a panic about needing to get out and asking them to get her legal help. All these people called us about mum and agreed with us that she was in the right place and spoke of their own concerns and brought up scenarios that had worried them too. She spent four weeks in the mental health ward, they tried three different types of medication until they managed to find something that worked without serious side effects (a huge bodily rash was one but that was ceased pretty quickly when the doctors saw it). I stayed with my father for a week and visited mum a couple of times a day before I had to return to my home city. When mum was allowed home visits and therefore access to her mobile phone again, I would receive multiple abusive phone calls and emails of how I had betrayed her and she could never trust me or anyone ever again. This continued even when she was allowed to go home permanently, and at times, I was worried I would lose my whole family. My mum seemed to be telling people that I had been brainwashed into calling the mental health service team to come to the house. I couldn't even call my dad as mum would be checking his phone and she would accuse us of "colluding" against her. After about three months, things started to settle down and I received a couple of slightly civil emails saying that she had been "clearly unwell" and wanted us all to move forward together as a family. In my mothers mind, she still doesn't believe she has bipolar, she thinks she has anxiety, and had A manic episode. She has to continue to see the psychiatrists at the hospital for up to a year due to the legalalities of the Mental Health Act she was admitted under. Hopefully she continues the way she is, there are still bad days, but it is easier to cope with that these days as we have the right medical support now and there are friends and family who are really supportive too.
I can sympathise with you in how hard it can be to get someone to admit they have a mental illness, especially when some people still believe the stigma that used to (and sometimes still can be) attached to mental illness and that people are "crazy". That was what my mother said when she was first admitted, she didn't want people to think she was crazy. She now says she has a serotonin imbalance and has to have medication for it, just like asthmatics have to have medication to stay well. I told her at the time when they admitted her that it is similar to a diabetic having to take insulin for the rest of their life, if they don't take it, they will be unwell (and potentially die), and with mental illness, if they don't take appropriate medication, they will be unwell too.
What sort of discussions have you had with your mother? Have you spoken to many health professionals? The SANE hotline is also great for advice. I rang them many many times and they always gave good advice and reassurance. There were so many times I felt it was all a lost cause, but reaching out to others for advice and help and is the best thing you can do to help your mother, (and yourself).
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‎14-09-2017 06:04 PM - edited ‎14-09-2017 06:05 PM
‎14-09-2017 06:04 PM - edited ‎14-09-2017 06:05 PM
Re: Mother in denial
I joined Sane this afternoon in hope of finding some comfort from others going through the same things. After reading through your story, it has given me hope that one day my mother may be "normal" again. Thank you. We are going through similar circumstances but I just cant bring myself to make that phone call. I'm glad to read your mother is doing well, fingers crossed it happens to mine one day too.
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‎14-09-2017 07:04 PM
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I'm glad that reading my story has given you hope. It is a very difficult time and making that call is one of the hardest thing I have had to do, but I don't it regret and if given the time over I would still do it. This time last year mum was in the hospital wouldn't talk to me. Now, we are looking forward to Mum and Dad's visit at the end of the month and I have had quite a few lovely trips to visit them.
Don't hesitate to talk about what is happening and ask for advice. I also found it helpful calling the SANE hotline on several occasions. The support from others is invaluable, especially during a time that can make you feel as if it nothing will get better and you feel so alone. You are not alone and people are really willing to help. All the best and don't hesitate to reach out.