10-07-2023 08:58 PM
10-07-2023 08:58 PM
just sitting here with the dog doing nothing minding my own business feel like I cant breath properly and my hearts racing I don’t know what I did to get anxious it’s getting really uncomfortable but I don’t don’t know how to make it go away when I don’t know why it happened this happened earlier today dontceant know i cant stand it right now
why is my heart racing so quickly and I feel so tense
someone please help make it stop
my partner is in trying to get one of our kids to sleep i cant bother her with this
why though
10-07-2023 09:01 PM
10-07-2023 09:01 PM
I know you hate when people suggest breathing @ArraDreaming. It does help me though.
Can you try and focus on something else. Did you and the boys do anything fun in the weekend?
10-07-2023 09:12 PM
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10-07-2023 09:28 PM
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10-07-2023 09:36 PM
10-07-2023 09:36 PM
Hey @ArraDreaming - it's so hard when this stuff comes seemingly out of nowhere. Focus if you can on taking things slow and one step at a time. Like @Captain24 breathing slow and deep really does help. Remember that no feelings last forever.
Is your partner still attending to the little ones? Could you try to make yourself a cup of tea or something, give you something to focus on?
Here beside you mate.
10-07-2023 09:37 PM
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10-07-2023 09:42 PM
10-07-2023 09:42 PM
@ArraDreaming aye, that is super frustrating and pretty scary. Can imagine it's super confusing to have to sit with it, and that it seems to be happening so often for you.
Do you think you could talk to your partner about having her come sit with you, maybe some physical contact if you're open to it? Co-regulation is a thing, we can sometimes vibe off each other and being with someone more calm might help your nervous system.
10-07-2023 09:50 PM
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10-07-2023 09:51 PM
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10-07-2023 09:53 PM
10-07-2023 09:53 PM
@ArraDreaming I'm glad she'll be with you soon. You jus gotta hang on for now, I totally believe in you mate 💜
I'm knocking off in about 10 min, but another mod will be around if you want to tag them in.
I am sorry that this is so awful and confusing for you. Human brains are so weird, they mis-fire and tell us we're being chased by tigers even when we're just chilling at home. I hope that your partner is not too long, and that these feelings pass all too soon. I'll see you round, probably tomorrow 😊
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